SEX! How a sex-positive approach can improve and highten your (zest for) life.

{Spoiler alert: “When you are in touch with your sensitivity, senses, sensuality, and sexuality, you will be more present in your body & being, and therefore more able to tune into and be in touch with yourself, others, and the (natural) world around you.”} *** *** ***

I love my human body, my skin, my senses.. and I love sex - it is beautiful and natural - and I have a fascination for the entire spectrum of sexuality and eroticism. Of course we all have our preferences, but I support and promote to keep an open heart and mind towards those of others. God’s love isn’t limited to a single expression; therefore, mine will not be boxed in either. Maybe sweet romantic airy fairy stuff is not your cup of tea, maybe kink/BDSM is not your thing. We all have grown up with our parents, schoolteachers, the media, and other educators telling us what is normal and/or abnormal sexuality. Rather than the very judgemental term 'abnormal', I prefer the term 'deviant'; it sounds much more juicy and indicates something other than the usual or accepted standards. What is the standard is culturally determined and time dependant. What was normal in ancient Greek times for example, is considered abnormal (criminal in fact) in the modern West.
We are by nature erotic, all of us. Sexuality is what we are made of and are equipped for. We are born naked and with original innocence. The only sin we committed in regards to sexuality was to project fear, shame and guilt on it. There is no such thing as dirty, filthy, obscene, or repulsive. It is only our perception and quite often our preconceived notions or judgement of something we have not (yet) experienced or lived, or were taught to ignore, deny, or reject.

As babies we are naturally sensual, in full surrender to our caretakers and experiencing the world only through our senses. As children, we are innocently sexual, creative, playful, we start to explore our own bodies and those of other. It is how we get to understand our bodies and the world around us. As teenagers our hormones rush and we start to experiment with sexual activity with others, creating our own experiences and finding out for ourselves what we do and don’t like. As (young) adults we consciously explore aspects of (our) sexuality that even its existence we weren't told about. Perhaps we explore(d) with someone of the same sex, a threesome (or quartet or quintet or orgy -> wonderful for experiencing undifferentiated Eros), attend a couples or swingers club, a kinky party to explore our darker side, fetishes, etc.

For many, a healthy sexual relationship with oneself comes unfortunately very late, if at all. There is such a taboo still on masturbation. Yet, how can we have a truly satisfying sexual life with others, if we do not know all the ins and outs of our own ways of experiencing pleasure, if we are not taught anything about and shy away from self-pleasuring?

I invite you to start exploring your human body, this embodiment of the divine, a godly temple of flesh and blood to worship, your sacred vessel with which you move through life, the instrument through which you share your sound. Start with awakening all of your senses; touching, hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting, and your original innocence, or inner sense. What is moving you from within, what is it that makes your heart beat, what makes the blood run through your veins, what is the fuel for your inner fire, your passion? What is it that turns you on, gives you zest for Life? What is the juice in your life, what makes you juicy, gets your waters flowing and your fire going? Get in touch with every aspect, literally too. Explore yourSelf and your body. Every tiny little aspect, every inch of skin. Where does it feel warm and what area needs more attention, warmth, loving?
As soon as you are in touch with all of this, in short, with your body and its ecstatic delights and wild pleasures, you can start to connect with the vital life fore that is grounded in your base, in your sexuality. Through heightening, expanding, spreading, and breathing up your sexual energy, you will start to feel more awake, alive, open, vital. From a deep loving connection with yourself and your body, you will be more present in life and more present with others. When you are in touch with your sensitivity, senses, sensuality, and sexuality, you will be more present in your body & being, and therefore more able to tune into and be in touch with yourself, others, and the (natural) world around you.

What's in it for you? So much more pleasure, gratifying connection, and true fulfilling enjoyment of life! What's in it for us? To be able to enjoy the amazing being that you are more fully, because you will be HERE more fully! What's in it for the rest of the world? The inherit inspiration that comes with taking better care for your own little piece of earth, your human clay body, to take better care of the Earth, this precious planet we live our short human lives on. It is after all a reflective universe and the way we treat others, the planet and its inhabitants and resources, is a holographic reflection of how we treat ourselves...

Now, is there no other way to reach high levels of awareness and consciousness? Sure, there are many means and modalities to achieve this. So why this sex-positive approach? Working from the ground upwards, starting at the base of our being, just seems incredibly natural to me, and working with the senses and sexuality just happens to be an incredibly enjoyable and pleasurable modality. It is my own Healing Path and Sacred Play, and my joy to share this with you through my writings and work offerings.

I dare you to more consciously inhabit your own beautiful being and body, and therewith to become a more conscious inhabitant of this precious planet. Paradise is already here, this ís the Garden of Eden, our Heaven on Earth, if only we can fully sense it...

With passion & pleasure,

Mandy Selina Ronda

Originally written: 06/02/2014

“If you live your love life only through the body, you live a very poor love life, because you live very superficially. Sex, just of the body, is not even sex — it becomes sexuality. It becomes pornographic, it becomes a little obscene, it becomes a little brutal, ugly, because it has no depth in it. Then it is just a physical release of the energy. Maybe it helps you to become a little less tense, but just to become a little more relaxed you are losing tremendous energy, tremendously valuable energy.” - OSHO 
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Artwork: Gustave Courtois - 'Adam et Eve au Jardin d'Eden'